So, you can imagine my shock when I read 'A man's guide to marriage: the proposal' in yesterday's Guardian. Thankfully there was a brief flurry of sanity in the comments, but I'm still astounded that it appears that a lot of women wait to be asked yet will not let their partner choose a ring to mark the occasion. Seriously? You don't trust him to choose a diamond you'll like yet you think he'll be able to translate your telepathic messages about getting hitched? If you want it, ask... just like you'll do with the ring.I only want to get married if it's legally necessary to do so and, hopefully, by that point civil partnership will be available to all. Either way, I still don't get the ring thing. Surely wedding tattoos would make much more sense as a true sign of mutual devotion? Or perhaps I just watch too much sci-fi.
2 comments:
I've always found it interesting how people propose completely as a surprise after having spent a fortune on a ring. We discussed getting married for several months before we got engaged and decided it was something we both wanted. The whole concept of not trusting him with choosing a ring but wanting a surprise proposal is ridiculous.
I don't know if that many people really do propose as a complete surprise these days? Surely there must have been some kind of "is marriage something you might fancy" discussion at some point?!
FWIW I was with my (now) husband for 9 years before we finally decided it made sense to get married. He did propose to me, but he also chose a ring, all on his own. It didn't cost thousands :D
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